My name is Sofia, I’m 23 years old, soon to be 24 and I’m the founder of the account @lesfemmesparfaites on Instagram.
What inspired you to create this account?
I created this account in 2016. At the time, I was following women’s confidences accounts on Facebook but I felt there was a real lack of tolerance and caring. It was always full of criticism and judgment – you could rarely find good advice. This made me want to create my own community with the values I stand for, to bring together women from different backgrounds and religions so that we can all communicate openly, freely, without judgment and with tolerance.
What are your sources of inspiration?
The person who inspires me the most is Emira from the account @lacrazyrevolution. Why? Because this woman doesn’t care about anything! So, thanks to her and her account, I have learned to not care about anything either!
According to you, what are the most problematic issues concerning women in our society today?
The biggest problem, in my opinion, is sexuality. A lot of women don’t dare to talk about it because it’s a taboo subject. So that was one of the main reasons why I created my page because I wanted to provide a space where all women can talk about it, without being ashamed and where there is no judgment.
What is the message you want to convey through your page?
I want women to be able to communicate with each other without judging, criticizing and learning from each other. And most importantly, to share images and positive vibes!
Why did you call your account the perfect women?
At first, this account was called: “the perfect woman” because I wanted to create a character! The character of a perfect woman who could give advice and ideas to other women so that they in turn become perfect! Over the years, I realized that no, I didn’t want to be equated with THE perfect woman. So I changed the name to “the perfect women” so that all the women who follow me would be called the perfect women. And why? Because we are all perfect with our imperfections!
Why do you encourage women to open up and share their stories?
I encourage women to open up and share their stories because for me, talking is therapy. We all need to express what is hurting us and not feel alone. And, that’s often the feedback I get, people thank me and say “thanks to you I don’t feel alone anymore, because I had the chance to communicate with women who are going through the same challenges and experiences as me”.
What are the experiences shared by the perfect women that have touched you the most?
The first one is the story of Ines, who is a moon adult, she suffers from XP disease, which means she can never be exposed to the sun. Her story touched me a lot! I was pleasantly surprised to discover this strong yet joyful woman.
Also, another story that touched me a lot was that of the daughter of a battered woman, she even made me cry. She told how she lived with her mother being beaten by her father and how she did everything she could to protect her mother and run away with her. I even get chills when I talk about it.
And the last one that really touched me was about the mother of a child with Down syndrome. I thought it was beautiful how she talked about the love she has for her child.
So that’s what it’s all about: touching stories on different themes! And all the experiences that the women share are very touching to me.
What would you recommend to women who are struggling with the pressure of being a perfect woman?
DON’T CARE! Don’t let it bother you!
Stick to personal development as well. Take an interest in this area. In my case, it has helped me a lot to put things in perspective and learn to love myself. By the way, I’m going to make a product placement aha, if I have a book to recommend to you, it’s Caterine Bensaïd’s book “Love yourself and life will love you” and you’ll see that you won’t have any pressure! You will love yourself.
You also talk a lot about relationships. What do you think is the definition of a healthy relationship?
A healthy relationship is one where you are not afraid, where you feel GOOD and where you don’t have the pressure or the need to change for the other. The moment you feel pressure or have constant doubts, it is unhealthy. It has to be fluid, you have to feel good, it’s important.
Why do you think so many people are in toxic relationships?
In my opinion, and I mean in my opinion, the reason why so many people are in toxic relationships, I think and I’m sure, is because they don’t trust themselves. So they hold on to the wrong one. I’m sure of this because with what I see and hear around me, like some of my friends who stay attached to relationships that hurt them, when I ask them about it, I realize it’s because they feel like that’s all they deserve and that they can never get better. Why do they feel this way? Because they don’t think they are good enough.
How do you get away from that?
You have to work on yourself! As many people say: you have to love yourself first before you can love the other person. Why? Because if we love ourselves, we will be able to love healthily and attract a good person to us. If you don’t love yourself, you will attract someone who will confirm it. Unless you find someone who will be there to help you… But that is rare. Because as they say, it’s easier to attack someone who is weak.
You should also go see a psychologist! We don’t say it enough and it’s a bit of a taboo subject, because when I advise the girls who follow me to go and see one, they tell me “No, you’re crazy! ” . But yes, you have to! We all need to go to one and talk about what has hurt us inside!
Work on yourself, work on yourself…! And you will accomplish great things…!
To sum up: what is your definition of a perfect woman?
For me, a perfect woman is a woman who loves herself despite her flaws, she even loves her flaws! It is a woman who loves herself, that’s all. We are all perfect women. We have to STOP comparing ourselves, we are all unique and perfect our own way.
Why did you agree to do this interview?
I agreed to do this interview because I wanted to share a message and show how I think we can take care of ourselves. But indeed, there are many ways to take care of yourself, as many ways as there are human beings. And the Di Paradise website helps you find YOUR own way to do it.