What is fear?

Fear. Whether it paralyzes us, makes us want to run away or turns us into a dragon, it can seem uncontrollable and deprive us of all possible reactions.

Maybe for you, fear is called anxiety, that voice that keeps whispering in your ears that what you are doing “is never good enough” and that, yes, the world is cruel, hostile, and that you need to think a thousand times before doing anything, even if it’s just choosing your morning clothes.

Maybe for you, fear is felt as pain, tension in the body, as having a constant tightness in your breathing, a feeling of tiredness that never leaves you.

Maybe for you it’s more than that, it simply becomes nothingness in your mind, a feeling of being present without really being present. To survive rather than to live. To have a feeling of emptiness so deep that you can’t even recognize and hear the signals of distress that your mind, your body can send you.

Whatever manifestations fear may take, its consequences remain the same: it blurs your vision and takes you away from the wonderful feeling we all seek to experience: peace.

A permanent feeling of fear, in fact, never lets you rest: you have to be constantly on your guard to make sure you don’t make a wrong move, don’t disappoint, don’t fail, don’t be judged… Yes. It’s exhausting. Because even moments of rest are not really moments of pause anymore, because, as you may have discovered, when our mind goes into overdrive, it doesn’t care if we want to sleep, take a nap or enjoy a good time with friends.

So yes, if we let the mind go about its business, fear will continue to rock our lives. But, if we decide to listen carefully, what could happen? If it does not stop sending us signals, it is perhaps that it tries to send us messages? Indeed, who says fear, says DANGER! But is there really one? Well, it is our responsibility to find out! But how?

Face your fears to be able to fight them

The more your emotions, your states of mind remain buried, the more power they will have over you. The ignorance of the origin of our fears amplifies the intensity of its signals. If they are there, it is only to protect us from fear, to warn us about potential risks that could harm us. To determine and understand the nature of these messages, the first step is to be aware of them, to highlight the reasons for these fears in order to be able to act upon them!

You might want to ask me now: “But how do I do it? I always have a billion thoughts at once!”

My first answer in an ideal world would be to “simply” advise you to express yourself to someone so that this person can act as a mirror effect and help you untangle the knot of thoughts that overwhelms you!

But I am well aware that “simply” may seem very ironic, BECAUSE WHO to talk to in these moments? You can say to me:

  • To my parents? If it’s to hear that I’m too sensitive and weak, no thanks.
  • To my friends? Too ashamed.
  • To a psychologist? No way.”

So sometimes, facing with very few alternatives to express all that weighs on our minds and hearts, we often end up giving up trying to cope and letting fear continue to waltz through our lives.

The solution we suggest to overcome your fear

Be your own mirror! Sometimes journaling can be just as beneficial as talking to someone. Then, you can find YOUR own way to do it, whether it’s by video or writing, it doesn’t matter, as long as it DOES YOU GOOD and helps you see more clearly what you’re feeling.
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